…can only be from Allah?

I contemplated this this past weekend when I heard stories of great female scholars, among them Faatimah as-Samarqandiyyah and Zumurrud Jawlee.  Although both excelled in their respective fields of knowledge and became incredible scholars of their time, it was their marriages that most intrigued me!

It was the story of Zumurrud which was a heartbreaker.  Although she had a good first marriage and being raised into a royal family, growing up to be a Queen herself, her husband later passed away and she was left alone with a kingdom, and three sons, none of them worthy of the kingship.  After some turbulent political events, her sons were of no use to her in the end, and while she re-married, her husband never saw her and had no desire to.  Of course, you’d have to know the whole story to get the details, however the ending years of her life were spent in Makkah and Madinah where she was buried.  The amazing thing was that she died and no one knew she was a Queen!  Alone and forgotten… just like how all of us will end up eventually too.

Faatimah as-Samarqandiyyah had a wonderful relationship with her husband, a relationship that I believe most women, like myself, would be envious of.  Although they had no children, it seemed like their life was full already, because they both were scholars in their own right, and had established their relationship upon seeking knowledge for the sake of Allah.   In fact, her husband’s love was very apparent when, after her death, he too died shortly out of grief for her loss.

What a contrast between these two women’s lives!  But it made me think:  is it possible to make a great marriage and have a great relationship such as Faatimah as-Samarqandiyyah’s with one’s spouse, or are these sorts of things strictly from the blessings of Allah?  Either way, I was left with mixed thoughts after hearing about these two stories.  On the one hand, it is the Hereafter we should strive for and there is no guarantee how people in our lives will turn out in the end.  The important thing is to work on ourselves and our own improvement and make sure we are fulfilling the rights of others at the same time.  If good relationships come as a result of that, then alHamdulillah.  However making things happen?  I’m not sure still.