I have been reading and enjoying a work on religious extremism, translated by Sh. Jamaal Zarabozo lately and came upon a hadeeth, while I’ve read it many times before, that I came to understand only recently in regards to raising children.

The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:

إن الله رفيق يحب الرفق ويعطي على الرفق ما لا يعطى على العنف

Whenever I tried to achieve a goal, or have my children achieve a goal, if it was done in a harsh manner, the desired results were never achieved.  In other words, Allah did not give what is given when one is gentle and merciful.  If you teach your child anything from the Deen, desiring for them guidance and knowledge, perhaps that result would not be achieved until and unless you’ve bestowed that knowledge upon them with gentleness.  If you want Allah to guide your child to Islam and grant him/her Tawfeeq, you must be patient and gentle, otherwise, your harshness may leave your child deprived and your goal unfulfilled, wallahu A’lam.